I wonder if she really wants to be with me.

Should I call her? I wonder why she's not home tonight.

I hope she shows up for our date tonight.

... the list goes on and on.

You see, your brain is just a computer. Whatever question you ask yourself, you will get an answer to. That's your brain's job. If you were to ask yourself, "Why am I so fat?", your brain would spit out a bunch of answers like:

Because you eat too much fast food.

You are lazy and you don't exercise.

Because you're a loser and you eat too much junk food.

Those kind of answers wouldn't be very helpful would they? But what if you asked yourself a better question like, "How can I lose 10 pounds?", then your brain would start giving you answers to that question.

But it doesn't stop there. How do you think we could modify that question to make get our brain to give us more potent and powerful answers? Here's some examples:

How can I lose 10 pounds within 2 months? (now you're adding the element of a deadline to the question, which will give you a completely different answer.)

How can I lose 10 pounds within 2 months and really have FUN doing it? (that's a great question, and you will get a completely different answer, because your brain will be looking for ways to lose the weight that are fun, and only give you those answers)

What can I do RIGHT NOW that will get me on the road to losing 10 pounds and having fun? (again, that's a different question completely, because it not only mixes in the element of time, but also tells your brain to only give you answers that you can act on right now.)

So I hope you're starting to see just how powerful your brain really is. But remember, YOU are the one who's in control of it, and the way you control it is by controlling the questions that you ask yourself on a regular basis. You see, you probably don't even realize it yet, but you are ALWAYS asking and answering questions in your mind. It's just that you are doing it automatically, and you're not consciously aware of it. It's kind of like driving a car. When you're first learning, you have to consciously pay attention to everything that you're doing. But the more you practice driving, and the more competent you get, the more those individual actions of driving (like checking the mirrors, shifting gears, knowing how much pressure to apply to the brakes) get put on your subconscious autopilot system.

That's what you want to happen here too, but first you've got to change the questions that you're asking yourself habitually when it comes to women and dating.

So let’s try a fun exercise. To begin with, let’s pick a question that many guys ask themselves at one point in their lives :

“Why can’t I get those really hot women to be interested in me?”

Well, if you ask yourself that question, you’re going to get some really lousy answers, because the brain is just a computer and it’s job is to give you all the reasons why you can’t get laid.

Do yourself a huge favor, and start paying close attention to the questions that you ask yourself when it comes to women, dating, and sex. You might not think that you ask yourself questions like I mentioned above, and I can answer that statement like this...

Have you ever had a car that you REALLY wanted? Maybe you even went out and bought it, who knows. But when you thought about that car, it’s like you could actually feel yourself driving in it. It was so real to you. And then something funny happened. As you went through your day, you began to notice that very same car EVERYWHERE.

You saw it on the highway, in the malls, at your college, wherever. Why? Because your mind was now conditioned to pay attention to, and notice that car whenever you saw one. The same thing applies to the questions that you ask yourself. If you tell your brain to notice the questions that you ask yourself around women, you WILL start to notice them all.